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Have you taken yourself on a date recently? I believe it’s one of the most important things to do for self love and self care, so I’m going to give you 17 things to do alone, when you want to take yourself on a solodate.
After all, your relationship with yourself is the key relationship in your life. But it’s the one we seem to spend the least time on. You might feel awkward going out by yourself, like everyone is looking at you. The people in the restaurant judge you for being by yourself, or the person at the movies thinking you’re weird for buying one ticket.
But trust me, those people couldn’t care less how you are spending your time. And even if they were, they’d probably be jealous of your confidence.
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The movies
The easiest, and in my opinion least intimidating option for things to do alone. It’s dark, barely anyone will even notice you’re by yourself. It is so nice to watch a movie by yourself without someone making comments in your ear or wanting to discuss it afterwards. Also, you get your popcorn completely to yourself!
Theater, ballet, concert
Another one where it’s darker so people won’t notice as much, but maybe more intimidating because of the setting. I enjoy these by myself because I love immersing myself in it, and that’s just a lot easier when you’re alone.
Breakfast/lunch
My favourite low-key things to do alone are going out for breakfast or grabbing a coffee. Where I live it’s not really a usual thing to go out for breakfast, which makes it feel all the more special to me. It really is a treat.
I usually go to a cafe in my city, but my favourite is going to a hotel. Often you can join their breakfast without staying at the hotel. And let’s be honest, 75% of the fun of staying in a hotel is the breakfast, am I right?
I bring a book, my journal or some music and can sit there for literal hours.
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Dinner
Definitely more intimidating than going or lunch or dinner by yourself is going to dinner. Still, going for dinner by yourself is such a nice experience, as you get to take it all in. Go to a new restaurant, or order a new dish at your favourite restaurant. Look around. Watch the people that are sitting there, look at the decor in the restaurant. Look at the person behind the bar making drinks, or maybe you can find a place where you can look into the kitchen?
Museum
Another thing that is great to do by yourself is going to a museum. You can stay with certain paintings as long as you like, or skip the ones you don’t want to see. You can go through the whole museum in an hour, or spend all day exploring. I think I might prefer going to musea by myself, there is something so peaceful about it.
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Spa date (out or at home)
How nice is it to be completely relaxed and peaceful? A spa day is the ultimate solution if you’re feeling a bit frazzled. Ideally, you’d be able to go to a spa or sauna and spend some time in the quiet there. You can always check Groupon for good deals, but if going out is not available for you, I have a post about doing a spa day at home right here.
Take a class
Try something new on your own! No better way to break out of your shell than to try something new by yourself. You are not bound to something someone will do with you or something they want to do but you’re not really into. You might even make some new friends and expand your social circle.
Go to the park
A simple, low-key solodate idea is to go to a park! Bring a snack and maybe something to do. Spend the day sitting on the grass in the sun. Read a book. Watch other people. Sounds like a perfect day to me.
Explore a nearby city
One of the most perfect things to do alone! If it’s possible for you, going to explore a new city is definitely good fun. Nobody there knows you, so no need to feel awkward about being on your own.
You can do anything you want, and explore some new places to go. Try to stay away from the shops/cafes you already know and try some local coffee shops. Walk around the city and absorb the atmosphere.
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Go shopping
Shopping is so much easier by yourself, I promise. So much more efficient, and relaxing. You don’t have to hurry up because your friend/child/partner is waiting, everything at your own pace.
Stop for a coffee to recharge and go back to tackle some more racks. To prevent overbuying, make a list of things you need and only buy something if it’s on that list.
Volunteer
A win-win situation. You get to do something ‘alone’, and help others at the same time. I definitely categorize this as a self-date even though you’ll meet with and talk to other people. You’re going there alone, because you want to. You’re throwing yourself in the deep end. You might learn a thing or two depending on the place you go, but you will definitely make someone’s day a bit brighter!
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Make a fancy homemade dinner
One of my favorite things to do alone. If going out for a meal isn’t an option for you, what about making a nice meal for yourself? Find a new recipe you want to try and go out to get all the ingredients. Then take your time cooking, turn on some music, dance in the kitchen. Enjoy yourself while making the food, then enjoy eating it.
Go out for a coffee or a drink
Another simple, low-key idea for things to do alone is going out for a coffee or a drink by yourself. This is really good if you enjoy watching people (who doesn’t), especially if you don’t distract yourself with your phone/book/newspaper/anything. Just sit on your chair, enjoy your drink and watch what’s going on around you. You won’t regret it.
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Get creative
Break out all the paints, coloring pencils, crayons, whatever you can find. Get yourself some paper and go crazy. Don’t think about it, just start. I feel like getting creative brings out our inner child and is so much fun once we get started. You might feel a bit strange at first but that will go away soon enough once you’ve started creating something. Whatever you do, it feels good to make something.
Make a vision board
Kill two birds with one stone and make your vision board! If you’re not sure what a vision board is, it is basically a collage of the things you want to do/have/achieve in the near/far future. Print out pictures you found on pinterest or cut them out of magazines. Collect a bunch of pictures that make you feel happy and represent what you want, and put them on a big sheet of paper or cardboard.
Explore your own city
Be a tourist in your own city! Book a touristy tour, a walking tour or go out by yourself. See what your local tourist center recommends. Pretend you have never been there before, where would you like to go? Again, try to avoid the shops and cafes you already know and explore some new ones.
Travel
I feel like this is the ultimate top for things to do alone but it is so rewarding and fun. Go on a trip by yourself! Stay away for at least one night, and go anywhere you like. This is so rewarding and really builds your confidence and independence, especially if you’re somewhere your cell service might not work.
Get lost in new places and roam around. Do whatever you want, whenever you want. Do you want to stay in your nice hotel bed until 1pm? You can. Want to get up at 5 and be the first to see that tourist attraction? You can! It is so liberating to be in this position and I recommend it to everyone.
If you do this, you might want to turn on your GPS with a friend or family member for your own safety and have an agreement for you to check in occasionally.
Conclusion
So there are my favourite ideas for things to do alone. If you need some more convincing, here is my article on why you should date yourself. As I said, I highly recommend you try it sometime, even if it seems intimidating at first. Give it a couple of goes before you turn it down completely. I promise you’ll like it and enjoy your time alone.
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