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In my world, there is a book for everything. And as I love to share those, today I am sharing 5 books to love yourself more.
Each of these books take their own approach to learn to love yourself. Some are more scientific, some more spiritual, and I have one that’s targeted at women of color, which I think is amazing.
I hope you take these books to love yourself on your journey, and that they can help you as much as they did me. Learn to love yourself. Learn to love your imperfections. Learn to be confident as you are. Because you are worth it and you deserve to feel that love for yourself!
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The self love experiment
The first of the books to love yourself is the self love experiment by Shannon Kaiser.
The self love experiment is the story of the author who is on a self love journey. You follow her journey from beginning to end, and get to see how she did it. It includes 15 guidelines that have helped her love herself more, and will hopefully help you learn to love yourself as well! Here’s what’s in the description:
Shannon Kaiser learned the secrets to loving herself, finding purpose, and living a passion-filled life after recovering from eating disorders, drug addictions, corporate burnout, and depression.
Shannon walks you through her own personal experiment, a simple plan that compassionately guides you through the process of removing fear-based thoughts, so you can fall in love with life. If you want to change your outcome in life, you have to change your daily habits and perspective. Shannon takes you on this great journey into self-love and true self-acceptance.
I remember when I read this book, I thought the only thing missing was HOW she actually did it. It’s good to follow her journey and get her insights. To be ‘in the brain’ somehow of someone being on that journey makes you feel less alone on your own journey.
But while it gives you guidelines, there are no concrete steps. There’s no ABC to follow, and I thought that was the only thing I wish it would’ve had. That’s also why I wrote my own post on 5 things to do to love yourself!
The gifts of imperfection
Brene brown is well known for her werk in psychology, sensitivity and getting us in touch with our emotions and feeling more ‘normal’. I’ve recommended another book of hers in this post, but today this one is so important!
The gifts of imperfection is about accepting the parts of ourselves we think aren’t good enough, or faulty, or wrong, or unworthy, and seeing ourselves for the perfectly imperfect beings we are. What stood out from me on the description:
A motivational and inspiring guide to wholehearted living, Brené Brown, Ph.D., bolsters the self-esteem and personal development process through her characteristic heartfelt, honest storytelling. With original research and plenty of encouragement, she explores the psychology of releasing our definitions of an “imperfect” life and embracing living authentically. Brown’s “ten guideposts” are benchmarks for authenticity that can help anyone establish a practice for a life of honest beauty—a perfectly imperfect life.
There is strength in our imperfections and we are who we are for a reason. and that reason is not so that we can change everything about ourselves.
If you are more scientifically minded, this book is perfect for you as Brené supports her statements with lots of research and numbers.
You can heal your life
On the other end of the spectrum of books to love yourself is You can heal your life. I have read this book several times, and it never fails me. The insight Louise Hay has, and the wisdom she shares, are on another level.
Louise believes that all the problems we have can be solved by more love, and more specifically when you learn to love yourself. The book has information, exercises, affirmations and a whole section on how physical ailments are related to mental problems. It’s fascinating, honestly.
This book gave me so many insights, so many aha! moments, and I have it on audio, ebook as well as paper. Be mindful that it is more about mindset, inner work and affirmations so if that’s not your thing, maybe skip this one. If you are all into it, the accompanying workbook adds even more value! If you only read one book to learn to love yourself, take this one.
21 days to love yourself workbook
Shameless plug, but my own workbook! I created a workbook for you to learn all about self love, and journal on things that will help you see how incredible you are. 21 journal prompts will guide you towards self confidence and self love with ease and joy.
I believe self love is the most important love we can hold in our hearts, which is why I wanted to create a practical workbook that would help you work through your doubts and insecurities.
Be unapologetically you
I’ve not read this book myself, for obvious reasons, but I think it will be such a good read for any women of color. I don’t know if there are many books to love yourself specifically for women of color, so I thought this was really good! The author is afro-indigenous, so she has first hand experience, having struggled with it herself. Reading the description, this stood out to me:
Everybody looks at themselves and finds all sorts of reasons not to love what they see or they wait for someone else to give them permission to love themselves. You have to stop waiting and start doing and that takes some work. Self-love is not something that just happens – it’s a creative process where you dig deep to find your own soul. You have to let go of comparisons which make you feel less than and you have to see your supposed flaws as your gifts.
As a woman of color, you think you are at the bottom of the pile but your position is unique and your differences are not your weakness, they are your strength. Once you own that, you can be unstoppable.
I think it’s amazing that a self love book has been written for and by a women of color, as I can only imagine that it’s quite different for you, so I did want to include it.
Treasure yourself
The last of the books to love yourself is ‘treasure yourself’ by Miranda Kerr. I first read this book in 2013 or 2014, and thinking how insightful Miranda is. I think she is an amazing person, coming from a really good place with this book to learn to love yourself. She is very much tuned into the universe, and I think she has such a different point of view.
I can hear you thinking; she’s a model. What does she have to be insecure about? But I imagine models are probably more insecure than us ‘normal’ women are. Imagine your whole body being on display, feeling like you have to be perfect all the time? She’s taken her experience, and put it in this book:
Written for young women all over the world, this book presents an incredible life story of one of the most successful international models today with down-to-earth life lessons that anyone can relate to. It has important lessons on self-confidence, inner beauty and acceptance and uses some of the classic wisdom that has inspired Miranda to achieve
Miranda takes a holistic and spiritual approach to life, so this book is about mindset, affirmations and taking care of yourself in different ways than you might be used to.
I hope some of these books spoke to you and you’re so excited to learn to love yourself! Books to love yourself are a bit hit and miss, which is why I wanted to give you some options to choose from. If you’re looking for more on loving yourself, take a look at these other posts:
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