Lately I’ve been noticing a lot of mindset shifts in myself and I couldn’t be happier about them.
Your mindset determines how you see the world around you, it is literally the way you set your mind. So you can set it to see more happy things or more negative things.
So I was noticing these mindset shifts and the difference they have made in my life and my mental health and I just knew I had to share them.
These mindsets aren’t just for specific situations. They will uplevel your whole life and way of thinking, and give you so much more self love, confidence and mental peace, I just know it.
So without wasting more time, let me tell you these mindset shifts!
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No matter what happens, I will be okay.
The first of the mindset shifts is a very powerful one, the realisation that you will always be okay. No matter what happens in your life, you will be okay. It may sound like a lie at first, especially if you’re not used to thinking this way. But trust me, it makes a huge difference to get on this wavelength.
I got the realization when I’d been on 2 dates with a guy. I liked him and wanted to see him again, but I wasn’t too confident about it. But when I was writing out my morning practice, The thought came to me: “even if I never see him again, I will be fine”.
And since then, I’ve stuck to this mantra, and it is amazing.
Things always work out for the better
Tied into the first one is this one. Things always work out for the better. Even though it seems like a disaster at the time, somehow things always turn out fine and often even better. I am a firm believer that plans fail because better things are coming, and in my experience it that is so true.
Think back to something that happened in your life, and you thought it was terrible. Maybe you didn’t get something you wanted, you lost something or a situation went awry. How did it work out? I am willing to bet that you are in a better place now than you would have been if it hadn’t happened.
I saw a flat last year that was in my price range, it was actually quite reasonably priced and pretty much ready to move in. But the same night, the owner called me to say that he’d gotten an offer that was 12.500 over his asking price, on the condition that he’d get the confirmation the same day. Obviously he took the offer. I was upset, but I figured it just wasn’t for me.
Within a month I found a new apartment that needed a lot of work but was therefore cheap compared to the size, it was on the top floor so no upper neighbors, and even had an attic that could be converted into living space as well. I bought it. So now my house has a lot of extra value because we renovated, and I can add even more value when I renovate the attic, essentially doubling the money I paid for it. It worked out for the better!
The universe made no mistake in creating me
If you’ve been on my website before, you may know I am very passionate about self love and feeling amazing about yourself. Now I know this isn’t always easy, but this mindset shift made such a difference for me.
Whether you are spiritual or religious, no matter what higher power you believe in. Consider your faith in it. Do you honestly think that they’d make a mistake putting you on this earth, exactly how you are? Do you genuinely think that your higher power would make mistakes?
I don’t, and that is why this gives me so much peace whenever I think I should change. Or be different for someone else. Or be liked by everyone. We are made the way we are, because the world needs one of us. Now that I’m writing this, it reminds me of another quote:
“How cool is it that the same God that created mountains and oceans and galaxies looked at you and thought the world needed one of you, too”
Again, no matter what higher power you believe in, this is beautiful. The chances of you being in this world right now are microscopical, so surely no mistake was made, you are here, and you are exactly the way you should be.
I am responsible for my happiness and my wellbeing
When you realize this, you can take charge of your life. Too often we live life from a victim mentality. The world is against us, nothing is going right, nobody likes us, he makes me mad, she irritates me, the world makes me sad.
In reality, no one and no thing is making you anything. You are responsible for your feelings, even though right now it may not seem this way. But even in the darkest hours of a depression, you can make a choice to talk to someone. To clean your room. To eat something nutritious. To do one tiny thing that might make you feel better.
Taking responsibility for your happiness means you don’t depend on others to make you feel good It will transform your relationships and your life when you understand that you are the person that needs to keep you happy. Nobody else can do that for you.
Not everything is a priority, and that is okay
There is a big difference between saying “I can’t do that” or “I can’t afford that” and saying “That’s not a priority right now”. We always want to do everything and have everything, but that’s not always possible.
However, instead of limiting yourself by saying you can’t, consider it a “I choose not to”. By saying something is not a priority, you are leaving the door open to opportunities. Maybe you will do it at a later point. But right now, it is not a priority.
It also gets you off the hook with a lot of things you tell yourself you “should” be doing. Should is a word we must ban as soon as possible, because it does absolutely nothing for us. Instead of thinking: I should be going to the gym more. I should be eating healthier. I should be making more time for …, understand why you are not doing it, and simply say: It is not a priority for me.
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For others tips to change your life and be happier, you might like my post on lifecoaching yourself, tips to stop overthinking, or 25 things to do to be happier
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